The Groom's Blog
Jeff
Grooms! Choose Your Marriage Proposal Wisely
Posted: October 20, 2016
Quote~ “Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they succeed when we love the ones we marry.” — Tom Mullen (singer/songwriter)
The quote about marriage, stated above, is great advice for a guy who's ready for a marriage proposal. It seems simple enough, but the crucial step is being sure your marriage proposal doesn't get offered to your bride-to-be for the wrong reasons.
Guys, you have the honor of being the one who plans the marriage proposal. Don't be forced into doing it before you're ready. And ladies, the more you give your man before you're married (you know what I mean), the less interested he'll be in truly having to figure out whether or not you're the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. The mindset for marriage should be "forever". And that's honestly how EVERY groom-to-be should feel before he executes his marriage proposal plan.
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A recent Time Magazine article suggests that we should really listen to the Psychology Department at Stony Brook University in New York. They recently did some research on couples in love. After looking at the brains of 17 couples, claiming to still be in love after about 20 years of marriage, they found that the brains of the married couples were similar to couples who were newly in love. How, you ask? One of the members of this group, Arthur Aron, said: "research has led him to believe the most successful couples are those in which partners help each other expand their ideas of themselves." Let's keep that one in our front pocket!
All I'm saying is this: true love is real and very special, so a marriage proposal should NOT be something a groom-to-be takes lightly. And even if you find that special person, you also need to REALLY love them in order for your marriage relationship to remain special. Grooms-to-be, love is more than just a series of feelings, so remember that as you contemplate a marriage proposal. Above all, you must find the desire to ALWAYS put your bride's happiness above your own. If you're thinking about a marriage proposal and that's not something you're ready or willing to do with the woman you're with, then we suggest you keep waiting or keep looking!